ABOUT JONIE
We started out so well. What could go wrong?
I was really good at being married, until life’s challenges stacked up. Years later, I became stressed, overwhelmed, resentful, and lonely.
Did I marry the wrong person?
What happened to us?
“Why are you looking at me like that? This is your fault.”
“You’re late, again.”
“I can’t believe you spent $350 without talking to me about it.”
What happened to us? We used to be on the same team. We used to agree. I used to feel seen and loved.
I was not expecting this depth of loneliness to happen in my marriage. I was so filled with frustration and resentment that sometimes I didn’t want him to come home.
Love was not enough. Neither were my good intentions.
I avoided our issues for a long time because they seemed unsolvable. Honestly, they were also annoying, and I didn’t want to spend time and energy on them. But everything kept getting worse, way worse. I had to do something to change this. “Trying harder” wasn’t working.
Either I commit to be miserably at odds with my husband, or making it better.
My degrees in nutrition and science couldn’t fix our issues, but I did have my research skills. Through in-depth studies in marriage courses, child and family development, and relationship coaching, I started to see a way out of the mess. Through many experiments, I learned how to change the patterns of our marriage.
I discovered tools and practices that brought our love back to life.
I discovered that I did not marry the wrong person! It was the foundation we lacked. What I needed was to learn how to be myself, understand who he is, and figure out effective ways to interact so we could discover what our “us” looked like again. Once we rebuilt our foundation, we were able to increase our understanding of each other, deepen our intimacy, and support each other again.
Now, I support others so they can enjoy their marriage and life again.
Many marriages and families are suffering significantly because they don’t have these tools and skills. I hope my work, and the healing and peace it brings, reaches them.
You deserve the opportunity to learn how to create supportive and enjoyable relationships.
These concepts are part of who I am in my personal life, my coaching practice, and the reason I founded LINK Relationships. When people work with me, they grow in these four areas that provide the keys to respectful, supportive, and life-giving interactions.
LEADERSHIP – Learn how to be stable and effective leaders for ourselves before we lead others in our family and our community.
INNER WORLD – This is the missing piece of many relationships. It includes our inner thoughts, sensations, feelings, emotions, experiences, values, and desires. When we don’t know how to share these with others correctly, we hurt our bodies and relationships.
NEW EXPERIENCES – It takes courage to try out new things. I give myself a high-five when I do this, and deeply respect and applaud others whenever they venture into unfamiliar territory. It’s a foundational element in vibrant and growing relationships.
KNOW-HOW – Knowledge is a good start. Effectively applying it, that’s “know-how.” It’s practical, next-level, and what we talk about during sessions. This is when the good stuff starts to happen.
