Relationship coaching that helps you overcome loneliness, ease constant tension, and avoid divorce
Feeling unimportant or misunderstood?
Being alone in a marriage is devastating.
- Unheard, frustrated, not respected or supported
- Explosive & hostile and/or avoiding & hiding
- Feeling wronged and lonely
- “This isn’t how I thought it would be.”
Loneliness and frustration are incredibly painful. They are also signs of better days ahead.
It’s true. When you are in the distressing phase of marriage, know these three things: It’s common. It feels absolutely horrible. AND it’s an extremely beneficial phase, once you know how to navigate through it.
Loneliness and frustration are painful. They are also a sign of better days ahead.
It’s true. When a marriage hits this stage, it shows that people want to change. It’s the way marriage works. Loneliness and frustration are growing pains. But if you don’t know what to do with them, they deepen the wedge between you. Before you know it, that change is leading toward a separation or divorce.
Instead of divorce or a miserable marriage, you can know what to do to have a better marriage.
Less Resentment & Pain
Less Attacking & Avoiding
More Companionship & Intimacy
Resentment is a helpful neon sign, highlighting a problem to solve, but it’s absolute poison when it lingers for too long. You can know what to do to benefit from resentment, and then how to snuff it out.
Conflict can either wound and create distance, or it can be used to grow and create deeper connections. Once you know what to do with conflict, you will discover its hidden value.
We start out well, but everyone has deep layers of relationship rubble that eventually surface. However, if you know what to do with it, you can enjoy companionship & intimacy again.
Focus on Yourself...
At least some of the time. First, the work begins with identifying what you think, feel, and desire. Then you learn to communicate those truths effectively, both to yourself and to others. It’s simple, but not easy.
Conflict is a Friend
Conflict done well rewards you with connection and stability, and doesn’t take a long time. Enjoyable marriages develop through understanding our differences despite the conflict involved.
Distance is Important
Sometimes we lose ourselves by getting too close to the other person, abandoning our own needs and identity. Other times, we create so much distance that we hide behind emotional walls that can take many forms.
Not Alone Anymore
It’s normal to be an intelligent, sane, loving, and successful person in the world AND have marriage problems. Relationship struggles are often not due to a lack of effort, intellect, or care; they’re due to a lack of effective modeling and training. Our society does a terrible job of this.
When I was younger, I didn’t know this. I felt so irritated and deficient that my husband and I couldn’t achieve the marital happiness we used to have. At times, we couldn’t even attain marital civility. After we learned to navigate this distressing phase, I understood how our automatic patterns had held us captive for years.
You don’t have to divorce or settle for a miserable marriage. You can become aware of the devious patterns causing your misery and know what to do to break loose. You can reduce tension, decrease your pain, and feel understood.
When I equip individuals and couples to navigate their dark phase of marriage, they step forward into a more stable, supportive, and enjoyable relationship.
The path forward to a more supportive and enjoyable marriage.
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BOOK AN APPOINTMENT
This is an important opportunity for us to meet each other and hear about your marriage. No need to hesitate, it’s not a sales call.
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LEARN WHAT IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING AND WHAT TO DO
As we look at the patterns that are running you into the ground, you will begin to see what keeps them active, how to reduce their energy and impact, and what you can do instead.
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ENJOY YOUR MARRIAGE AGAIN
Your desire to care for yourself and your partner will grow, and you will know what to do to reclaim your relationship. You will have less tension, more understanding, and better days.
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BOOK AN APPOINTMENT
This is an important opportunity for us to meet each other and hear about your marriage. No need to hesitate, it’s not a sales call.
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RECEIVE PERSONALIZED COACHING AND “THE REAL WAY OUT” FRAMEWORK
As we work together to develop skills, you will understand more about yourself, your spouse, and you will experience less hurt. You will change, and so will your patterns.
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ENJOY YOUR RESILIENT MARRIAGE
Your new perspectives and skills will benefit you and your family, now and for years to come.
Lives Changed
Do you want a sneak peek?
If you are having problems in your marriage or parenting, you might be stuck in the Triangle of Trouble. The tricky part? We can fall into these patterns without realizing it. That’s a tragedy.
This video is designed to help you spot relationship patterns that cause stress and heartache so they don’t destroy your family.